This week we bring you advice on supporting a child after bereavement from our friends at Winston’s Wish. Each year, Winston’s Wish supports over 30,000 bereaved children and young people after the death of their mum, dad, brother or sister, so that they can face the future with confidence and hope.
There are now new rules applying to death certificates in Scotland. Among the positive changes, cremation fees have been abolished. Families no longer have to pay £170 fees for cremation forms that doctors previously signed to give permission for a body to be cremated.
Tony and Dorothy Bonser lost their 35 year old son Neil to cancer. In the four years since, they have periodically received communications for Neil, despite having informed the organisations involved. Tony tells us about the couple’s upset and frustration. (See info below for Tell Us Once – the government scheme to make sure people don’t have repeat information endlessly when a family member dies and they have to notify authorities.
MSPs in the Scottish Parliament yesterday (27 May 2015) debated and rejected the Assisted Suicide Bill for Scotland by 82 votes to 36. Shame. The Bill would have offered people with terminal illness control at the end – the ability to get the help of a doctor to end their life.
Friend of Final Fling, Jimmy Stewart, is interested in achieving a good death. He became interested in knowing more about the rules and options around end of life after watching his mum die. He’s one of a growing band of us actively interested in managing our options.
The Assisted Suicide Bill in Scotland is going through its motions. MSPs will have a free vote in May. Many of us will live longer – but it may be quantity rather than quality we get. If you want to be in control, be informed and let your MSP know your views. It could matter to you more than you think.
Do you ever ponder your mortality? Yep. Me too. You might be interested to hear from our friend Bobby at Working Pictures in New York shares news of their campaign, Mortal on Indiegogo.
If you are close to young person who has a life-limiting condition – you might find this new guide to having conversations with young people about death helpful: Difficult conversations, by Together for Short Lives and the National Council for Palliative Care:
I’ve just been talking to a journalist, keen to know about the options for disposing of a body and this has prompted me to share this information. (It still surprises me that this isn’t stuff we all know by now since it’s the one sure fire thing in life – we will all die.)
This week, Donna from Sekoya shares thoughts about handling the death of an employee. (See our Death in the Workplace checklist for other ideas.)
Does a good death exist? Peg, a music teacher with cancer achieved a good death. She went home. Her ability to be at home, spend time with people she loved around her, pass on a book of music to Hunter, share a hug, say out loud: “you’re special”… that was a good death . Death – and a […]
I’ve signed the European Declaration on Palliative Care 2020. It’s not the sort of groovy campaign slogan I’d have printed on a t-shirt; not a badge of honour to wear. It’s policy recommendation territory. Sorry – did I wake you there? But I’d urge you to read it and sign if you feel you want to. If I […]
The Assisted Dying Bill, had its first day of Committee in the House of Lords on 7 November 2014. A great breakthrough was achieved – for the first time the debate was about HOW, not IF, the law should change.
The Scottish Parliament has carried out a public consultation to invite broad views on the subject of Assisted Dying. These are now in. They have published a report that pulls together the outcomes.
Thanks to our friends at Winston’s Wish for sharing their thoughts on how to offer a child support around the death of a parent.
Last week I watched an incredibly uplifting, moving and inspiring documentary called Alive Inside about the miraculous power of music in accessing memory and reinvigorating people lost to dementia or Alzheimers. I’m not over-exaggerating when I use the word ‘miracle’. And it wasn’t that Biblical once-in-a-lifetime kind of miracle but a reliable, repeatable miracle that happens over and over again. If you do one thing this week, spare 6 minutes and 45 whole seconds to watch this excerpt from the documentary.
This week I’m making an urgent request to pick up a pen and urge members of the House of Lords to support The Assisted Dying Bill on 7 November.
The Bill would give us the right to choose to end our life if we felt its quality was so diminished that death would be preferable and two doctors agreed we were of sound mind and able to make an informed choice for ourselves.
If you’re dying to live – or even more, if you’re not dying to live – maybe because of hard times, emotional stress, confusion, illness – we think you ought to treat yourself to Dying to Live workshops that take place in Dorset in November and Cornwall in June each year. Read more about them and book now for early bird rates.
Find out progress on the Assisted Dying Bill in an update from Sarah Wootton Chief Executive, Dignity in Dying.
There’s been an interesting run of comments in The Guardian this week connected to a feature asking questions about coping with the loss of a child. The article features an interview with Denise Turner, who lost her son Joe to cot death aged 19 months. That was 9 years ago. Denise now lectures at Sussex University and for her […]