Table for one

“Table for one”. It can be a liberation, an embarrassment, a statement, a wee shame, a treat. Like everything else in life, it’s all about attitude, perspective and most of all, choice. I’ve just had a birthday. I chose to go out for dinner on my own in a city I don’t know. I’d flown in, […]

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Planning a good death

To kick off 2016, Jane Duncan Rogers ran a Planning a good death workshop, incorporating her own book, her Good Death Checklist and Final Fling’s planning tools, giving workshoppers the chance to chat, share, think, talk, plan and record. Here, Jane shares a bit about the session and the feedback. Our sell-out Planning a Good Death […]

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Women Do Death Differently

10 years ago, it occurred to me that maybe women do death differently. That’s when I bought the domain name,  Final Fling, in the hope that I could contribute in some way. We’re more about emotional engagement than transaction. We’re collaborative, supportive, we cut to the chase and focus on the important things. We’re good at […]

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Death as a medical failure

9.30am and I’ve already read a couple articles about death as a medical failure. The thing is, the great authorities: professionals, doctors and surgeons who do such an amazing and laudable job to protect, cure and save us, also just find it very, very hard to let go. Maybe almost as hard as we do. And […]

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Grasping the nettle… the future of palliative care in Scotland

How does the future of palliative care in Scotland look? Well, talking to friends involved in death and dying down South, pretty good actually.

That’s in no small part to the work of an active and engaged group of people who meet as the Scottish Partnership for Palliative Care and who run the website Good Life Good Death Good Grief and its events, like To Absent Friends festival.

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Living well dying well

I’ve just been in London speaking at Living Well Dying Well’s conference. What a great event.

It’s inspiring to get together with like-minded folk and share what’s happening. There’s a swell, a movement afoot that might help us get back some of the skills in our communities that we used to have so that we’ll be better able to live and die well.

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Give a kidney

This week Chris Burns-Cox talks to us about Give a Kidney, the charity he founded after his own amazing experience of donating a kidney.

“Six years ago I read in a newspaper that a GP from Surrey had given a kidney to a stranger …

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Caring for an elderly parent – where to start?

Caring for an elderly parent – where to start? That’s very ‘up’ for me at the moment.

We’ve been in rescue mode, driving an 86 year old for hours from a place of social isolation and increasing depression and anxiety to… well, you hope a place of some comfort and company but have to recognise it’s also in reality an unfamiliar household with different patterns, pace and rules.

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Jimmy’s good death

Friend of Final Fling, Jimmy Stewart, is interested in achieving a good death. He became interested in knowing more about the rules and options around end of life after watching his mum die. He’s one of a growing band of us actively interested in managing our options.

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Assisted Suicide Bill Scotland

The Assisted Suicide Bill in Scotland is going through its motions. MSPs will have a free vote in May. Many of us will live longer – but it may be quantity rather than quality we get. If you want to be in control, be informed and let your MSP know your views. It could matter to you more than you think.

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How to achieve a good death

 Does a good death exist? Peg, a music teacher with cancer achieved a good death. She went home. Her ability to be at home, spend time with people she loved around her, pass on a book of music to Hunter, share a hug, say out loud: “you’re special”… that was a good death . Death – and a […]

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Palliative Care 2020

I’ve signed the European Declaration on Palliative Care 2020. It’s not the sort of groovy campaign slogan I’d have printed on a t-shirt; not a badge of honour to wear. It’s policy recommendation territory. Sorry – did I wake you there? But I’d urge you to read it and sign if you feel you want to. If I […]

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