For the last week, I’ve been reflecting on a question Professor Allan Kellehear raised about how long grief lasts. He posed this question during his keynote speech on Creating Compassionate Cities at the Everyday Compassion conference in Glasgow. He answered his own question. “Grief doesn’t last 6 weeks or 6 years. It lasts forever.”
Last week Jackie Kay, our wonderful Scots Makar – Scotland’s poet laureate – was one of the guest editors on Woman’s Hour and chose as one of her many fascinating topics, ‘complicated grief’.
If you need help, coping with loss at Christmas, we think you might like a look at tips from The Compassionate Friends. This group has come together through common experience – the loss of a son or daughter. The tips, we think, will be of general help to anyone dealing with loss.
There’s no hierarchy in pain when it comes to death, but there’s no denying, losing a child as a baby is a new parent’s nightmare. This week, Matt Cunninham shares his experience of losing his daughter Molly.
Death workshops give you the opportunity to explore aspects of yourself that often don’t get a voice or space.
This week, Phil Goss, from Cumbria shares his experience of a Death Workshop. This might help you if you’re thinking about attending one.
Final Fling is running a Death Cafe in Glasgow for Dying Matters Awareness Week.
This time we’re working with Douglas Hall, a bereavement counsellor, to explore emotions associated with death and dying.
Films on death and grief We have started a list of recommended films. Please do contact us if you have suggestions to add. Beyond Goodbye Remembering Josh: a 45 minute film that records Josh’s life as it was remembered at his funeral, with many wonderful musical contributions, stories and anecdotes. Beyond Goodbye: a shorter version of […]
Death and loss It’s a sad truth, but the fact is we’re all living and we’re all dying. As difficult as it may be to accept, death is an inevitable part of life. At Final Fling we don’t waste time dwelling on the negative of this, instead we see death as the counterpoint that makes […]
Traditions and beliefs around death change with the fashion. The Victorians photographed the dead, then that practice went out of fashion. Christians used to think suicide was honourable then changed their mind. How we die depends very much on our culture and society.
There are masses of great books on death and grief to support you coping with mortality, illness, dying, death and loss and funeral planning. Here are some of our recommended reading suggestions.
“It is dying that finishes us, that ends our story. So we should live the fleeting day with passion and, when the night comes, depart from it with grace.” Richard Holloway from his book, Looking in the Distance We learn separation and loss from infancy and may encounter it in many forms during life. It doesn’t […]
Final Fling is delighted to have Grief Specialist, Kristie West on our side. One of the many interesting topics Kristie explores in her therapeutic work with clients as a grief specialist is whether or not we feel it’s important to hold onto pain as a way of honouring the memory of the people we’ve lost…
Nicky Whichelow of GreenAcres Woodland Burials shares some tips to help with grief and loss. “We meet families and friends every day who are coming to terms with loss. With that in mind, we thought we would give you an insight into what families that we have spoken to, valued most highly during their bereavement. And to make it a bit easier to understand, we have turned this into a list of tips.
Get inspiration from Page Hodel on how you might go about creating loving tributes to someone you’ve loved and lost.