Most people plan and shop around for big life events – taking on a mortgage, planning a wedding or civil partnership, even buying a pram. Yet 97% of people don’t shop around for a funeral.
At a distressing time, funeral costs can add further worry to individuals and families. Funerals have been called ‘the ultimate distress purchase’. They are often planned in haste, under stress and few want to bicker over costs. Odd. Because a traditional funeral can cost £3-4,000 and the average cost dying is over £7,000.
It doesn’t have to be this way. A cheap funeral can be a richer funeral. Simple funeral arrangements may be sweeter. Lighting a candle may be more meaningful than a firework display.
It’s OK to check cremation costs versus burial costs. It’s OK to question whether you want flowers for funerals. It’s OK to compare the price of coffins for sale online. It’s OK not to use a funeral director or a funeral parlour. You don’t have to have a cremation service at all.
Check out your options for organising a funeral. It’s not cheap or disrespectful. It’s sensible and it’ll give you a better chance of getting it right for the person you are honouring.
Funeral arrangements can be as simple or lavish as you want (and can afford). Funeral costs can be very low if you organise the funeral yourself. You can make the coffin, use your own transport, bury the body on your own land (if you own it) and organise the celebration at home. In that case your only costs would be cremation costs or burial fees.
Currently, most people opt for a funeral director to take care of the body in their funeral parlour, provide a hearse and make the cremation or burial arrangements. All in the average cost is likely to be around £3-4,000. (The average cost of a burial in Scotland rose in 2013 by 66% since 2004 to £3,506.)
Some funeral directors and celebrants provide services free for the death of a child.
See Cost of Dying report produced annually by Sun Life to update on funeral costs in the UK.
See The Real Deal report produced by Citizens Advice Scotland on funeral costs in Scotland.
The figures below are just for guidance: funeral costs can vary widely from one part of the country to another so check these out locally.)
- Registering a death – £10 for the death certificate and £4 for additional copies.
- Cremation forms – £76 each (£152) for Cremation Forms 4 and 5 signed by doctors for crematorium
- Crematorium fees – around £6-750
- Funeral director – the funeral director will charge around £1,200-£1,700 to take care of the body, organise the funeral and provide a coffin and transport. They will pay other costs (‘disbursements’) – like the cremation certificates and burial or cremation fees, and bill you for the total: usually around £3-4,000.
- Burial lair – this is the burial ground. Costs vary eg £350-600 for a lair which has space for 4 family/friends, tiered. In some parts of the UK, a lair costs double for a non-resident; other areas have a flat rate. Many burial grounds no longer sell title deeds to a lair in advance of a death because land is at a premium.
- Burial fees – around £5-600 including gravedigging in churchyard – cost may be more in other cemeteries. Burial in a churchyard is less if the service is held in church. If you’re claiming a funeral payment it will cover burial not cremation.
- Coffin – from £150 for a cardboard coffin direct from the supplier up to thousands. A cardboard coffin customised with your design and delivered to your door will cost around £300.
- Hearse – funeral directors will provide a hearse to transport the coffin and a car or cars for the family – it’s part of the servce. They can source and will charge extra for special vehicles – cadillacs, horse and carriage, motorcylce hearse. You can use your own estate car or van or hire a car.
- Celebrant – £150-200 for a service including meeting and drafting script and overseeing the ceremony. Ministers charge £160.
- Organist – around £50
- Flowers – from around £60
- Memorial headstone – from around £400
- Catering – entirely up to you. Do it yourself at home and invite people to bring a dish. Often people go to a local hotel and spend around £6.50 a head for sandwiches and a cuppa.
Our friend Dan at Funeral Costs is trying to expand info and keep it up to date. Great.
Here are a couple of our favourite models with costs (correct at time of publishing – check them online to be sure you’re up to date):
Cremation: Poppy will see to the cremation for you – you don’t have to go to the crematorium – which frees you to do a simple or lavish event – or nothing – around the ashes. The fee includes a home meeting, completing all the paperwork, collecting and caring for the body and returning the ashes to you in a simple urn.
Cost: £1,750 plus crematorium charges (between £300-£800).
Burial: woodland or cemetery burial.
Cost: £1,550 plus the burial costs (grave purchases and preparation).
A range of plots are available in this beautiful meadow, lake and woodland natural burial reserve, stepping up £1k at a time from just over £1,000 to just over £4,000. There’s a charge of £450 and £250 at each level. You can have cremated remains buried.
Family plot: a plot for 4: 4 levels of cost starting at £1,300 stepping up to £4,300. Each interment costs £115.
More and more people want a funeral to be a celebration of a life, a personalised affair and want more than a traditional service.
Flexible funeral directors will offer a range of options to suit your preferences and budget. They should be happy to source products outwith their usual range on order on your behalf if you’ve spotted something you like. If your local funeral director can’t or won’t help, shop around. And there’s nothing to stop you start checking out your options now.
You might think about buying less and making more: from handmade coffins to homebaking for the tea after, see ideas.
Check out paying for a funeral if you want to make provision now.