There are many ways to remember someone, mark a life. And these days, there are growing ways for us to remember the ones we leave behind after our death.
The web and social media offer a new, vibrant and interactive canvas to remember a life; a way to connect the bereaved who can add to the patchwork quilt that is someone’s story. Here are a couple favourites:
- Beyond Goodbye – the Edmonds family pay tribute to the tragic early death of son/brother Josh at 22.
- Monday Hearts for Madalene – Page Hodel’s inspiring tribute to partner Madalene.
- Ghost bikes: started in New York, the cycling community across the world have taken up this trend to paint bikes white and decorate them to mark the site of an accident, remembering a lost soul and warning drivers to pay more attention.
- Dead Social: leave behind messages to go out on your Twitter or Facebook after death.
- White Owl Messaging: this is the ultimate service for the planner. Plan to send flowers, messages or gifts on birthdays, anniversaries or other milestones after your death.
Place: graves give us a place to visit and headstones allow us to make a physical mark, literally in stone. Put up a plaque on a memorial park bench, plant a tree in your favourite park in dedication, name a seat in a cinema, theatre or concert hall. This gives us a place to visit, a space for reflection, celebrates someone’s passion.
Time: we mark milestones in time – anniversary toasts and gatherings. Our celebratory artists can help create very special occasions to remember our missing.
Artefact: commission a portrait – in paint, film, story. This can be a lovely thing to do towards the end of someone’s life, working with them to reminisce and capture their full story. Commisson a sculpture or piece of environmental art for your home, the garden or a public space. Commission a song, piece of music or poem to remember someone and create a lasting legacy.
Public: the need to share publicly can be important – like a notice in the newspaper or local shop window.
Keepsakes: every society seems to share a long tradition of creating memorial jewellery, with a curl of hair, dried flower, a smidgeon of ashes.
Namesakes: establish the John Doe annual prize for the belly dancing group, allotment, bowling club, roller disco, camera club, darts team. Buy a plot of land in the Highlands in someone’s name. It helps conserve the countryside and if you do it while someone’s alive, you can enjoy the wheeze that it comes not just with title deeds but a title – Laird (Lord) or Lady. For more star treatment, online services will let you register someone’s name to name a star.
See our marketplace for many ideas for memorials, dedications and keepsake ideas.