I had a chat today with a Final Flinger about how to pay for funeral for a friend. He’s dying. She’s supporting. Both are worrying about how to pay for the funeral. And that’s the last thing they should be worrying about right now when they have just a little time left together.
Did you know, there’s a hierarchy relating to who calls the shots, organising a funeral – unless you’ve set out other preferences in an “arrangements on death declaration”?
This came to my attention when friend of Final Fling, Hilary Peppiette, shared a summary of the Burial and Cremation (Scotland) Act 2016 – the most recent legislation affecting burial and cremation in Scotland.
Ru and Claire Callander of The Green Funeral Company, field-leaders as Funeral Directors, share their thoughts on what makes a good funeral. Find out about their inspiring moments and disappointing moments.
Josefine Speyer, founder of the Natural Death Centre shares a snapshot of her life… “My husband was killed in a car accident. It was June 2001. I remember the day as if it were yesterday. We’d been married 10 years. We had wanted to grow old together.”
If you need help to organise a funeral or you’re thinking ahead about your own wishes, we’ve lots of ways to help from first steps when someone dies to winding up an Estate.
Anywhere is the short answer. Mostly we tend to hold funerals as a two stage process. 1) First, there’s the part where we say goodbye: usually at ‘the place of rest’… the burial ground or crematorium. Burial grounds are sometimes attached to churches so the ceremony may be in the church, the churchyard or if the […]
These days, we often look upon a funeral as a celebration of life as well as an opportunity to mourn a death.
Funeral, ceremony, wake, memorial… whatever you call it, these goodbyes are all ‘rites of passage’ – events for friends and families to come together after a death to say farewell and honour a life. Ceremonies called ‘life celebrations’ may also be held before a death.
The funeral tea is a particularly British tradition. In the States, it’s pork at the parlor, American student Josh tells us. Funerals are usually held 9am-5pm. This means we have some unusual catering requirements… hence the ‘funeral tea’ – sandwiches and scones with a cuppa at 4pm, sherry and sandwiches at 10.30am in a hotel […]
In my youth, funerals were a Men In Black sort of affair. Some funeral directors still hang onto that pomp and the top hat and tails vibe. For Baby Boomers and the festival-going generation, things are changing. Anyone opting for a natural burial may prefer wellies and jeans. Funerals that focus on celebrating […]
Usually after a burial or cremation there’s some kind of gathering. It can be as lavish or low-key as you want. A wild wake or a fireside toast. You could have people back home; ask family and friends to bring a dish. Get caterers in. Host the gathering in a local hotel, restaurant, cafe-bar, pub or […]
If you live a ‘green’ life, you probably want a green funeral or send off. There are ways of keeping your eco credentials. Read on…
Funerals are as important for children as they are for adults. They need to understand what’s going on the world. Plain talk helps. Honesty. Being part of what’s going on. Care and attention. It’s not rocket science. See our books for some titles that might help them understand. Find out more about Young People and […]
Parents and family may want to be closely involved or make all the arrangements themselves for the death of a child. You may want to use a funeral director or do all the planning among friends and family. You may want to use a celebrant or – if you are able – lead the tribute […]
Funeral transport can be a formal or fruity as you like.
Flowers mirror our own short lives: blossom, seed, die. Their fragrance and vitality at funerals, once practical is now decorative and symbolic of life and nature.
You can tell the story of a life in words, pictures, moving image.
Funerals tend to happen quickly – it can be done and dusted before you have time to think about whether you want custom-made or handprinted stationery as a keepsake. There are printers geared up for the fast turnaround of orders of service who will have several styles ‘on the stocks’ to guide you think through […]
Funeral themes are still a relatively unusual trend but I wonder if the trend to theme weddings might catch on and influence funerals more in future. This pic is the Abbey Road inspired theme for Final Fling’s launch back in 2012. The Sun newspaper’s popular psychic, Joan Charles, kindly came up with thoughts for Star Sign send-offs, […]