Who calls the shots organising a funeral?

Did you know, there’s a hierarchy relating to who calls the shots, organising a funeral – unless you’ve set out other preferences in an “arrangements on death declaration”?

This came to my attention when friend of Final Fling, Hilary Peppiette, shared a summary of the Burial and Cremation (Scotland) Act 2016 – the most recent legislation affecting burial and cremation in Scotland.

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Being here, now

Josefine Speyer, founder of the Natural Death Centre shares a snapshot of her life… “My husband was killed in a car accident. It was June 2001. I remember the day as if it were yesterday. We’d been married 10 years. We had wanted to grow old together.”

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Where can you hold a funeral?

  Anywhere is the short answer. Mostly we tend to hold funerals as a two stage process. 1) First, there’s the part where we say goodbye: usually at ‘the place of rest’… the burial ground or crematorium. Burial grounds are sometimes attached to churches so the ceremony may be in the church, the churchyard or if the […]

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Funeral as a celebration of life

These days, we often look upon a funeral as a celebration of life as well as an opportunity to mourn a death.

Funeral, ceremony, wake, memorial… whatever you call it, these goodbyes are all ‘rites of passage’ – events for friends and families to come together after a death to say farewell and honour a life. Ceremonies called ‘life celebrations’ may also be held before a death.

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Funeral teas

The funeral tea is a particularly British tradition. In the States, it’s pork at the parlor, American student Josh tells us. Funerals are usually held 9am-5pm. This means we have some unusual catering requirements… hence the ‘funeral tea’ – sandwiches and scones with a cuppa at 4pm, sherry and sandwiches at 10.30am in a hotel […]

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What to wear to a funeral

    In my youth, funerals were a Men In Black sort of affair. Some funeral directors still hang onto that pomp and the top hat and tails vibe. For Baby Boomers and the festival-going generation, things are changing. Anyone opting for a natural burial may prefer wellies and jeans. Funerals that focus on celebrating […]

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Catering + event planning

Usually after a burial or cremation there’s some kind of gathering. It can be as lavish or low-key as you want. A wild wake or a fireside toast. You could have people back home; ask family and friends to bring a dish. Get caterers in. Host the gathering in a local hotel, restaurant, cafe-bar, pub or […]

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Should children attend funerals?

Funerals are as important for children as they are for adults. They need to understand what’s going on the world. Plain talk helps. Honesty. Being part of what’s going on. Care and attention. It’s not rocket science. See our books for some titles that might help them understand. Find out more about Young People and […]

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Funeral for a child

Parents and family may want to be closely involved or make all the arrangements themselves for the death of a child. You may want to use a funeral director or do all the planning among friends and family. You may want to use a celebrant or – if you are able – lead the tribute […]

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Funeral stationery

Funerals tend to happen quickly – it can be done and dusted before you have time to think about whether you want custom-made or handprinted stationery as a keepsake. There are printers geared up for the fast turnaround of orders of service who will have several styles ‘on the stocks’ to guide you think through […]

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Final Fling themes

Friends of Final Fling have asked us to come up with themes to help think through options for different kinds of goodbyes. Above is the Abbey Road inspired theme for Final Fling’s launch. The Sun newspaper’s popular psychic, Joan Charles, has kindly come up with thoughts for Star Sign send-offs, exclusively for Final Fling. All star send-offs […]

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