A Time to Live – documentary about dying

Perfectly timed to keep up the momentum of Dying Matters Awareness Week, is next week’s A Time To Live: a documentary about dying. It airs on BBC2 on Wednesday at 9pm. “I met with documentary maker, Sue Bourne in March last year,” says Barbara Chalmers of Final Fling. “On the back of making the very successful film The Age Of Loneliness, the BBC asked Sue what she wanted to do next. She wondered what it would be like to live in the light of a terminal diagnosis and was looking for help to reach out for participants. I was glad to help and reach out to members of the Final Fling community – people who are engaged with the process of living and dying.

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The role of an Executor

Thanks to Chantal from Castleacre Insurance for sharing insights into the role of an Executor this week. This could also be entitled: Executor Forced by the Court to Reimburse an Estate to the tune of £300,000. A little more arresting. Here’s what Chantal tells us: Many people who take on the role of executor for a […]

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Death and letting go

This week, we look at the challenge of facing death and letting go, thanks to Evelyn Temple who shares her thoughtful, poignant story of her dad’s end of life wish – Just Let Me Go. Evelyn shares: February 25 2017 marked ten years since my Dad died. My Dad – strong, humble, constant, hardworking. He was my rock […]

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Spirituality and belief

Final Fling’s Founder, Barbara Chalmers, is exploring Spirituality and Belief as part of a Masters in Design Innovation at the esteemed Glasgow School of Art:

I imagine that spirituality and belief comes into sharp focus for many of us when we are facing mortality… in our daily reflections, at times of heightened awareness, when we’re coping with death, dying and loss. Spirituality might feel like a need or gap. It might feel like a support or crutch. Belief might help make sense at a confusing or troubling time.

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Funeral for a friend

I had the bittersweet experience of a funeral for a friend this week. A fine celebration of a life lived well and welcome words expressing not her bravery fighting her cancer but her anger at having to leave before she wanted and her frustration at not having completed her mission to make the world a better place (though for sure, she made a big dent in that one).

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Time for a Life MOT?

Are you interested in a Life MOT? Barbara Chalmers, Founder of Final Fling offers personalised Life MOT packages. A qualified life coach, executive coach, and COSCA Counselling Skills qualified, Barbara is trained in MAP and PATH techniques and is also considered a death coach.

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Living to Die

Are you dying to live or living to die? And does your view change if you are told you only have months to live? This week’s blog comes from Sue Bourne, award-winning documentary maker, who wants to connect with YOU, if you have had a terminal diagnosis and want to share your experience.

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Care after death at home

This week, Kate Clark from Pushing Up the Daisies, shares her experience and tips for care after death at home. Kate has experience of caring for family members at home after death and also brings her expertise as a nurse. She reminds us: “caring for someone at home after death isn’t anything new, rather it’s a […]

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5 Simple Steps to Joie de Vivre

At Final Fling we advocate living life to the full… with a spirit of joie de vivre. That’s what this is all about really… sorting out your affairs so you can get on with living your life. I’ve had two connections this week that reassure me that what we’re doing is indeed valuable.

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Being mortal

This week, Sara Sheehan, producer, talks with us about her new film documentary “Mortal”. There are free online screenings of the film from today until 25 April. We love the look of it.

Sara tells us:

“We began filming our documentary “Mortal” when it was apparent that my father was failing. My mother was faced with an overwhelming amount of decisions to make and they all felt as if they were of life and death importance.”

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Experiences of dying

This week, we’re shining a light on experiences of death, as witnessed by Kathleen Dowling Singh, a PhD who has walked beside hundreds of people in their dying stages. Kathleen shares her experiences of death – other people’s – in her book: The Grace in Dying. She concludes that however differently we have lived our lives, our experiences of death are remarkably similar whatever our culture or faith, wherever we live, when we have time and space to die.

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When a partner dies

How the Shock of Death Turned Into Something Entirely Different

Nearly a week now. I can’t believe he is actually DEAD. Can that really have happened to him? I’m so afraid of being on my own, rattling around in this house, terrified of the emptiness. Maybe that’s how Philip felt about death, terrified of the emptiness. He didn’t have a choice, he had to go into the emptiness. I have lots of choices, because I am still alive. So if he can do it, so can I.

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Give a kidney

This week Chris Burns-Cox talks to us about Give a Kidney, the charity he founded after his own amazing experience of donating a kidney.

“Six years ago I read in a newspaper that a GP from Surrey had given a kidney to a stranger …

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Being here, now

Josefine Speyer, founder of the Natural Death Centre shares a snapshot of her life… “My husband was killed in a car accident. It was June 2001. I remember the day as if it were yesterday. We’d been married 10 years. We had wanted to grow old together.”

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